“To Be So Lonely” is possibly the lightest song on Harry Styles’ 2019 album ‘Fine Line.’ Among the chaotic mix of the highs and lows of love and self-discovery, this song mellows the listeners’ mood and essentially provides a break to the psychological rush that is this album. Let us explore the meaning of this song further.
“To Be So Lonely” is the seventh track on ‘Fine Line’ album by Harry Styles, released on December 13, 2019. Unlike other tracks such as “Cherry,” “Lights Up” or “Falling,” this song is definitely not a rush. Assuming music similar to a Hawaiin style, Harry sings about being in denial.
In this song, Harry Styles tries to convince his ex that whatever the reason for their breakup was, it was not his fault. But he also admits that he is quite lonely all by himself after the dust settles. Listen to the song below.
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Lyrics Review and Song Meaning of “To Be So Lonely”
In the first verse of the song, Harry Styles asks his ex-girlfriend not to pin the blame on him for their relationship falling apart. It is noteworthy that he mentions him “falling” in these lyrics in a song appearing right after a song titled “Falling.” The songs seem to be interlinked throughout the album.
Harry Styles produces his reasoning to not put the blame on him; 1. he was just a little boy, 2. he was drunk. STRIKE! and STRIKE!! Not very good excuses, Harry.
The singer denies any responsibility for the breakup between them. Just two songs before, on “Cherry,” Harry owned up to his mistakes. He seems to be in denial of the happenings around him. Even the song music alludes to Harry’s lightheartedness of the situation.
Harry presses on his ex-girlfriend, or rather his own conscious that the breakup was not his fault. Maybe this is the best way for him to start moving on. But he relapses. He knows the mistakes he did and he wants to apologize for them. Most of all, he wants to apologize for not manning up to his mistakes. But, just as he says, he is an arrogant son of a gun!
In an attempt to move on from this relationship and his mistakes, he tells his ex-girlfriend not to be in contact with him. He realizes that he is lonely at his home. But he would rather be lonely than face the girl whom he did wrong. She was so good to him–maybe the girl from “Golden.”
In the second verse of “To Be So Lonely,” Harry finally admits his feelings. He confesses that he misses her kisses. He admits that he gets jealous of the news that she is with a new man now. But at least he hopes that she would see him in a better light now that he is finally exposing his feelings.
When two people move on from a relationship, it is natural to only reflect back at the good times. It is a trick, though. It is your mind fooling you to hold on to something that did not work in the first place. Shake your head and dust yourself up and move on. “This is it” and “I’m so sorry” are the right words for a right way forward. Maybe a journey ‘to be so lonely.’ But better be lonely than in the wrong company!
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